Spreading the labia heightens the sensation, and if he's down there using his hands to hold everything open, they can become cramped and stiff pretty quickly — this way his hands are free to pleasure you in other places." —Lou Paget "When you're giving a hand job, try a technique I call Ode to Brian.It may sound complicated at first, but when you get into the rhythm of it, your movements will just flow.
If you feel self-conscious about your body, do this semiclothed — wear one of his shirts completely unbuttoned; men love it when women borrow their clothes." —Lou Paget, creator of the Sexuality Seminars, a Beverly Hills-based company that offers educational seminars on how to make love "If you want to get your guy off orally, first spend some time stimulating his body from the navel to the knees with your hair. Then, focus your warm breath and kisses on the head of his penis and the part that's just beneath.
For most men, the sensation is the same as if you had the entire penis in your mouth.
Also, make hand play an active part of oral sex — lightly caress his testicles and stroke the shaft of his penis. The temperature and sensation produced by the grapes while you're giving him oral sex is incredible.
This helps increase the intensity of whatever you're doing with your mouth." —Paul Joannides, author of (Goofy Foot Press, 1997) "Freeze some grapes in a Ziploc bag. You might want to try spraying your mouth with Binaca or using mint-flavored toothpaste right before going down on him.
This will give his penis a nice warm feeling." —Cricket Richmond, author of (Hourglass Publishing, 1994) "If you don't like the taste of semen at all or want to protect yourself against disease, ask your man to wear a Sheik Elite mint-flavored condom.
It has an amazing taste." —Suzi Landolphi, author of (Putnam, 1996) and cofounder of the first all-condom store, Condomania, in New York City"If your partner hasn't pleasured you orally and you'd like him to, have a talk about it.Just say, 'I'd really like it if you'd go down on me, but I haven't seen that happen yet. '" —Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph D, Oakland-based sex therapist and author of (Bantam, 1993) "You must believe that men find vaginal secretions to be aphrodisiacal.So stop worrying about vaginal odors and get used to the fact that men get turned on when they have oral sex with a woman." —Sue Johanson, Toronto-based sex educator and counselor and host of on WTN "If you are comfortable, hold your labia open so your man has better access while giving you oral sex."In a good sexual relationship, you touch each other all the time — not just in bed.When you talk to your lover, put your hand on his or rub his back for a few minutes. When couples touch each other, it's a way of expressing warmth and keeping that 'united' feeling alive.All touching doesn't need to lead to sex, but it is a part of being physically intimate." —Brenda Venus, author of "As a rule, women take longer to get sexually aroused, so start by yourself before you get into bed.