It also doesn’t mean we’ve lost the ability to perceive attractiveness and beauty and it most definitely doesn’t mean we’re no longer interested in sex.We will want all of those things, and we’re still going to work toward getting all of those things. Maybe it was our overt actions (not claiming you as a girlfriend). Maybe it was our actual words (I’m not looking for anything serious right now), but you didn’t pay attention.
This means we’re going to be thoughtful, we’re going to be charming and we’re going to make your friends laugh when you introduce us to them.
We’re going to check on you when you’re sick, send you good morning emails and good night text messages. He’s so selfish and insensitive that he’ll never make a woman happy.” In other words, he can be a good guy and do everything right – but if he’s not acting like a boyfriend, you’re wasting your time. You claim to be a powerful woman, but you don’t act like it.
When we go out together, we’re going to do everything we’re supposed to do to make sure you have a good time and if you let us, we’re going to do everything in our power to please you sexually. Because a good guy takes pride in making sure a woman in his company has enjoyed her time with him.” Amen. You’d be hard pressed to find any of them who would say, “That Evan is a miserable asshole. (Oh, boy, now we’re cutting close to the bone…) “Men use a formula to assign value to the women in their lives and a large part of that formula is derived from how much we believe that woman values herself.
If you’ve been giving us all of you while requiring nothing more than our bare minimum then that negatively affects how much we believe you value yourself and we know in our heart we can never be with you.
So while I can’t personally identify with guys who are shut-off from love, I can acknowledge one thing: they keep me in business.
Even when I was in my ten-year-online-dating-slut phase, I always wanted to fall in love.
And yet, today, I’m going to continue to do my part to put myself out of business, by sharing this really well-written piece from Single Black on what emotionally unavailable men are thinking and doing when you’re dating them.
(Thanks to the ladies of FOCUS Coaching for the link!
) Here are a handful of excellent take-aways that I want you to internalize ASAP, so you will no longer waste time on another dead-end guy: 1.