Why limit the number of potential matches people can get? I got one of those emails too, although I haven't noticed any difference in my matches so I'm kind of sceptical about any impact it's alleged to have.
Because pretty people can't have their pretty eyes scarred by regular people? Does anyone remember that episode of Seinfeld where George uses a photograph of a beautiful woman to get into that secret club full of models? I have to admit, this is especially irritating to me because Ok Cupid markets itself as being sort of ironic and progressive and "cooler" than other online dating sites. If you use Ok Cupid, have you heard of this policy? But you're right - the implication that ugly people shouldn't expect to get dates is highly uncool.
If they're so ironic and cool and alternative, why are they falling prey to the same arbitrary attractiveness standards as your local meat market-y douchebar? My roommate is also on Ok Cupid and she didn't get one, which I was really annoyed about because she's an awesome person and gets more dates than I do, so clearly the standard is pretty arbitrary.
According to a trusted source (one of our sharpy-sharp readers), Ok Cupid, the popular (and free) online dating site, has a semi-secret policy that favors those who have been deemed the most attractive. The scales recently tipped in your favor, and we thought you'd like to know. We've tracked click-thrus on your photo and analyzed other people's reactions to you in Quick Match and Quiver.
Our informant forwarded along an email s/he received from Ok Cupid, which I am re-posting here in full: We are very pleased to report that you are in the top half of Ok Cupid's most attractive users.
Your new elite status comes with one important privilege: You will now see more attractive people in your match results. The policy discriminates against those deemed less attractive for whatever reason (bad photo, profile misspelling, etc.).
This new status won't affect your actual match percentages, which are still based purely on your answers and desired match's answers. And, no, we didn't just send this email to everyone on Ok Cupid. So basically, the users who get the best ratings from other users are granted admission into a special stable of hot people, while those who haven't rated as well are doomed to mill around outside, hoping for a date with whoever's willing to put up with their grotesque physical appearance. Those in the dreaded bottom 50% presumably do not have access to potential matches in the top 50%, even if they match up in other areas beyond the physical (which, let's remember, is rated based solely on online profile data).
But the people we recommend will be more attractive. You'll be shown to more attractive people in their match results. Ok Cupid is segregating the groups, which seems counter-productive to, you know, DATING. The policy reinforces the notion that hot people deserve love and happiness and "ugly" people should just get used to being alone.
For evidence of this, just check out some of the offensive language in that email!
For those who have been granted "attractive" status, "Suddenly, the world is your oyster." What the hell kind of world were they in before?
Oh, I know, the one where ugly people are barred from seeing pretty people. The policy makes dating decisions on the users' behalf without considering personal preferences.
Sure, I learned in my Sociology 101 class that people typically end up partnering with other similarly-attractive people; I'd bet many of you have read the same.
However, we've all got different preferences when it comes to physical attractiveness, and just because someone hasn't gotten as many click-thrus as someone else doesn't mean that users won't find that person attractive.
It's patronizing to think that Ok Cupid would decide who's hot and who's not, especially when hotness is completely subjective. The policy is kept secret (unless you're attractive! When you sign up for an Ok Cupid account, you are not tipped off to this segregating policy in any way, shape, or form.