but assuming that they like you in the way that you want them to…
In psychology, they call this a “self-fulfilling prophecy”.
Put your focus on really liking yourself and believing that the types of guys you like also like you…
The more you like yourself and believe that you can have what you want, the more likely you actually will.
Now, in the remaining part of the article, I’m going to talk about ways that you can tell if he likes you.
To answer your question from the information you’ve given me… From what you told me, my read on what you’re trying to figure out is one of three scenarios: a) you want to know that he likes you because knowing someone likes you feels good, b) he is indifferent to you (in the romantic sense), but you and you’re seeing what you want to see, c) you don’t know whether or not he likes you, but you’d be open to starting something with him.
I’m going to go with the assumption that you like him, mainly because if you didn’t, you wouldn’t have asked.
So let’s assume that I’m right and you like him and you’d like it if he wants you back.
I would even bet that you’re probably hoping I write back that he does like you. At the heart of all of these games and guesses is doubt.
But deeper than that, what you’re hoping is for me to confirm that I see things the way you want them to be – “he loves me, he loves me not, he loves me, etc.” You ever play those games? It’s a sense that you don’t really believe that it could be true, but you really want it to be.
A lot of the time, women fall into the trap of playing “emotional detective”: They dig into their memories and observations and go through EVERY insignificant detail to try and uncover some “hidden message” or “secret code” that the guy is sending.
The reality is that playing emotional detective usually only succeeds at doing one thing: Making the girl go absolutely crazy.