But when parents push their own agendas and shove their personal likes and interests on their kids, the creative spirit gets squashed.
Joy in work means that we pay attention to our children’s hearts.
Most child prodigies rarely grow into adults who change the world. In a NYT article Adam Grant describes kids who read at 2, play Bach at 4, do calculus at 6, and by the age of 8 they are fluent in foreign languages. Sure, gifted kids can play complicated pieces of music and cite complex scientific facts.
Surprisingly, these children whom you believe will revolutionize the planet ending up falling far short of actualizing their promising potential. Some believe that these children must be socially awkward and lack the necessary skills to maneuver in society. But they rarely compose their own pieces of music or dream up new ideas.
We learn that “what holds them back is that they don’t learn to be original.” As they strive hard to earn approval and admiration in their quest for perfection these geniuses don’t acquire the skill of innovation.
While becoming experts in their chosen fields as adults very few of these children will generate change and metamorphosis. But the powerful hope for transformation that lies within their minds and souls never takes flight.
Think of them as becoming the expert doctors and top lawyers who could have changed the broken system. What is needed from us, parents, to help raise a creative child?
First, parents need to help their children learn to think for themselves.Mothers and fathers who set too many rules and are overbearing stunt their children’s creativity.Innovative children are raised when parents take a step back and move from specific and rigid rules to highlighting moral values as a way of life.Psychologists who compared the most creative American architects with their very competent but unoriginal peers found where the difference was made.Those who were encouraged to develop their own individual ethical codes grew and flourished.In other words, we must try to stop hovering and start allowing children to self-explore.