Doc Love - Success Coach For Men Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars. If she is in line at a bank or store or restaurant.
Now maybe I’ve just missed it, but I don’t believe that you’ve ever discussed exactly what to say to a woman in great detail. How do you keep the initial contact going and make your way to asking for the home phone number? If I don’t get an enthusiastic response right off the bat, I tend to lose whatever confidence I have, stumble over my words, and end up making a fool of myself. Hi Carney, First of all, want to know why “Hi” doesn’t work most of the time? But the more interesting thing is this: they didn’t help you. Remember -- always keep it light and funny and easy. It’s all the rage nowadays to take pictures with your cell phone. In a bank, she’ll think you’re trying to rob her, so forget that one, too. Ask her where the white chocolate macadamia cookies are. Tell her it’s your first time in the store and that you’re lost.
I hope this isn’t too basic for you, but I could really use some help here, Doc. This is where I really get stuck when I try and meet a girl that I take a fancy to. So when you get around to reading this, what I’d like to know is what to say in the following situations (which is where I find myself most of the time when I spot a girl I think I’d like to take out): 1. Because the girls you’re approaching don’t have high Interest Level in you. That’s the main point you’re missing here -- most of the girls you hit on don’t like you. Out of a hundred girls, how many are going to like you? When she goes on staring at you, you’ll feel like a fool twice over, but that’s okay -- you’re just there to have fun anyway. At a restaurant, try to grab a table near her if you can.
Then ask her, “Hey, have you got a girlfriend for me? If she’s watching the dance floor, dance with some other girls where she can see you.
” If she doesn’t at least crack a smile, she’s got no sense of humor and you don’t want her anyway. You have to keep an eye on her peripherally, and then make your move.
The point is to have two or three great lines down pat, wade into the fray and SMILE. The best time to go up to her in a restaurant is when she’s on her way back from the ladies room. Give me your home phone number.” If she’s interested, it’ll work. When you open your mouth, the girl knows you’re conning her.
And remember, you have to be dressed right – neat and clean. Pick the ugliest, fattest one and beg her to dance. Or that her boyfriend, who’s twice as tall as you, is in the men’s room and she’s waiting for him. When you’re making any of these silly pitches, Carney, what you’re really doing is trying to break the ice. When you talk to her about the avocados in the grocery section, she knows there’s a good chance you’re hustling her.As my Uncle Jethro Love puts it, “Are your sneakers white? Of course, if you’re in the band, forget about all that -- it doesn’t matter! After you’re through and you go back and sit down at her table, say “I would be delighted if you’d introduce me to your friends.” 3. Step up to her and say, “Excuse me -- may I have this dance? And if she’s attractive, she’s going to get hustled all the time.” Now, before we get rolling on your list, let’s take an overview of the situation. You go up to her, and when she makes eye contact, you say, “Are you dying to buy me a drink, sailor? But if she sees something in you, and she’s available, you’ve got a shot, though it’s a slim one.There’s one thing all these girls have in common, like I said -- they’re all complete strangers to you. Before you even go near any of them, you have to ask yourself: What’s the numerical probability that this girl’s going to like me? Like Brother Love says, “She doesn’t know you from Adam, so the chances ain’t good.” But let’s take them one by one anyway. If, on the other hand, after two or three of your funny lines her eyes glaze over and she yawns – in other words, if she doesn’t help you out with positive encouragement either verbally or with her body language – say “Nice meeting you” and walk away. ” But Carney, you should be aiming at higher-percentage activities to meet girls.Like giving speeches where there are females in the audience.Take what you’re best at and emphasize your success.