Hi Khiem, I am trying to figure out the difference between chemistry and attraction.
To me, it seems you can be attracted to someone, but feel no chemistry.
That’s why a girl may be willing to go on an initial date with you, and you two can get along, but if there is no spark, she won’t see you again. Ryan Well, Ryan, you ask a very good question and interestingly, you seem to already know the answer but let me explain it further for you.
Attraction starts with a feeling of curiosity, a sense of intrigue about what you want to be attracted to.
If you think about all the things you’ve decided to take on in your life, most things started with you being curious or intrigued about that something.
Because you were curious about it, you decided to learn more about it, you decided to pursue it and therefore, you became attached and attracted to it.
Since intrigue is the beginning of attraction, then you can deduce that if you can get a woman to be curious about you, she’ll think of herself as attracted to you and will at least go on one date with you to find out what kind of guy you are.
When intrigued, most people feel the urge to satisfy their curiosity. this is why TV shows always make their weekly episode finish on a high…
in a way to leave you hanging and wanting to know more.
Curiosity is one of human’s biggest driver and motivator.
If you understand that, you can use it to your advantage to attract more women into your life.
The great thing about intrigue is that it can take on many forms.
You can intrigue a woman by your good looks, by the way you tell stories, by the way you walk or by your demeanor, by the way other people respond to you in a venue (social proof), by your sense of expertise or authority (position of power or authority), etc.
Basically, YOU can choose how you want to intrigue a woman based on which facet of yourself you want to convey to her first in order to arouse that curiosity in her. Chemistry on the other hand is more of a feeling inside of your body.