2 View All Next »There’s a lot to love about online dating.
You take the randomness out of trying to meet people, hoping that fate will guide you to THAT ONE SPOT you need to be AT THAT VERY SPECIFIC TIME in order to meet that special someone.
If you have approach anxiety when it comes to meeting strangers in person, online dating gives you all the time you need to calm down and send that message.
You have control over the impression you want to deliver, from that perfect photo to the charming and witty dating profile that captures and holds their attention. She hasn’t responded to a single email you ever sent… One of the risks (for suitably inflated values of “risk”) that you’re going to come across in the world of online dating is the dating site account that’s dead yet still shuffling around: the zombie profile.
Of course, there’s nothing quite so frustrating when you put all of that effort into your profile and start sending out all of those messages… In fact, that’s the reason why so many men quit online dating entirely; who wants to expend all of that emotional energy only to get kicked in the metaphorical nuts by that empty inbox every time you log in? Well, to mangle an old saying: once is happenstance, twice is coincidence, three times means you’re doing something wrong. It looks for all the world like a normal account, but the person who owns it hasn’t logged on in over three months… Sending messages, winks, pokes, flowers or other signs of interest is the digital equivalent to ringing the doorbell of an abandoned house. Zombie profiles litter their account – something that many dating sites make as difficult as possible in order to artificially inflate their numbers.
They may have set up the profile on a lark and forgot about it after moving on when some other social network caught their attention.
They may have started dating somebody they met on that very site and just never got around to closing their account or editing their profile to indicate that they’re no longer on the market.
These sorts of accounts will have unsubtle clues as to how to reach them elsewhere… When you’re constantly being deluged by strangers wanting to get to know you naked, you’re likely to start paying less and less attention to the actual content of the email.
After all, why bother when 99% of them are troglodytes who think that “Yo bitch” is a proper way to start an email or make the immediate leap to “I can’t wate to eat ur puzzy” are appropriate ways to approach a woman you don’t know.
Hell, many of my female friends will delete emails – without reading them – based solely on the because of the sheer volume of mail they receive.
Odds are good that your email got lost in the churn of every other guy out there who was trying to get her attention as well…
Ultimately it doesn’t matter: they’re never going to respond to you, so you may as well quit worrying about ’em.