isten up, guys—if you’re wondering why you’re not getting as much interest online as you’d like, let’s take a closer look at your profile.While it may look fine to you and your buddies, what women find appealing—or off-putting—is a whole lot different. Check out our list of seven common mistakes men make, and, if you’re guilty of any of them, use our quick, gal-friendly fixes to get the online attention you deserve.
“Women see a username and decide whether they even want to bother looking at your profile from that.
A username can make them think, ‘Oh, this guy just wants a roll in the hay’ and move on.” Female-friendly fix: Pick something that shows some personality, but that can’t be misinterpreted as negative or sleazy.
Try combinations that incorporate your first name, your job, one of your better attributes or a hobby: Names like Tall Texan, SDSoundboy, and Talkative Rick all tell a little about you without waving a red flag. Absolutely—women are keen on knowing about your career.
But should you, like so many men’s profiles do, trace your career back to your college minor (minor!?
), list every job you’ve had since high school, and detail every accomplishment?
Look, we know that for guys—who are taught to toot their own horns professionally but not delve into their emotional sides—it can be much easier to talk about their work goals than their romantic ones.
But spending too much of your personal essay talking about your job—or single topic, actually—gives an unbalanced picture of your life.
What’s more, most women want someone who can give them attention and affection, and will shy away from anybody who looks like a workaholic.
Female-friendly fix: Aside from a sentence or two about what you do, what you like best about it, and maybe a funny anecdote, leave the chit-chat about your 9-to-5 for later.
Instead, focus on what you like to do when you leave your office—these activities make better indicators of your personality and energy level, which have more to do with compatibility than where you punch the clock.
Chances are, when you type in the ideal age, height, and build of your perfect match, you’re thinking of those as ballpark range.